“Sometimes when you lose your way, you find yourself.” – Mandy Hale

Are you feeling a bit meh at the moment? Just feeling like a little spark has faded. And you feel there’s something missing, but you just don’t know what that is.

Believe me, you’re not alone.

It’s likely that almost everyone has felt lost on some level at some point in their life, so there’s no shame in experiencing this and not knowing how to see your way through.

You might be wondering what the point in life is or unsure of your direction, purpose or what you want. Your life on the outside may even look like you have it all together, but you’re just feeling stuck and unfulfilled.

That’s why feeling lost in life can be a tough, lonely and confusing time, but know that it’s absolutely possible for you to move through it. You’re then able to become a brand new version of yourself that’s much more in tune with who you truly are and what you want in life.

You’re likely here because you’re wanting tips and steps containing practical guidance that helps you feel less lost in life, and that’s what you’ll be receiving here my love.

You may find some of this guidance slightly counterintuitive as we strip back who you think you are down to who you truly are.

I guess all I ask is for you to be open-minded to it all. Give the points that bring up some resistance a try if you feel you can, and most importantly, know that there isn’t anything missing. Sometimes things can just get a bit disconnected – but that connection is inside my love. It’s ready and waiting to reconnect when you’re ready, and I deeply hope this post helps you in that journey.

My Own Journey Feeling Lost

Believe me when I say.. you’re not alone.

I’ve spent a lot of my life feeling lost. I never had any idea what I wanted to do and so pretty much winged the majority of life.

Plodding through a life that masked the lack of passion and direction, I ended up falling into some pretty dark places.

Then as time went on, I eventually started making decisions that lead me towards figuring out what I actually wanted. I began living through my own heart instead of what the people around me or society expected.

But even since I’ve become more conscious about myself and life, it’s still an ongoing journey of shedding identities, conditionings, dreams and beliefs that reveal different and deeper versions of them.

At the end of the day, there is a part of me that’s never changed, and connecting to this aspect of myself is what’s helped me the most through this fluctuating journey of feeling lost in life. And it’s this part of yourself that I hope this blog post can help you uncover.

What to do When Feeling Lost in Life

There are many reasons behind why you or any of us feel lost. Sometimes understanding the reason can be good for working on fixing it, and other times the reason may become clear naturally as you move through the work.

There’s no right or wrong way to approach feeling lost and no absolute structure to it’s solution. However, one thing is for sure – if you’ve decided enough is enough and you’re completely done with feeling this way, then you have to take action one way or another.

Even if it’s just one tiny step at a time or trying something different each week, consistency will be unbelievably worth it.

Maybe it’s the external version of you that needs your attention, or perhaps you’re longing to understand who you are on a deeper level. Whichever it is, hopefully you’ll find something from the list below that helps you navigate your way through feeling lost so you can find the true you.

1. Accept Where You’re At

This one is a mixture between being honest with yourself about where you’re at and accepting that wherever you are is okay.

Doing this allows you to make the changes you need to start moving through feeling lost with grace and compassion towards yourself.

Knowing that you have the ability and power to make these changes to overcome your current state is important and can give you lots of comfort through the journey.

Life is all about highs and lows, which at the end of the day are both experiences. If you’re able to start looking at them as just this, an experience rather than labelling as good or bad, it becomes easier to accept where you are and ride the wave without attaching too much.

However, just remember that it’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to feel down, lost and like absolute shite. So when you can start accepting that that’s okay, the journey can become a much lighter one.

2. Practice Self-Enquiry

The practice of self inquiry involves stripping back all the things that you believe make you who you are, and instead going behind all this to the deepest part of you.

It sends you into the depths of who you truly are at your essence by enquiring into who you actually are; behind the career, the personality, the name, gender, age, and behind the more subtle aspects like your thoughts, feelings and emotions.

It may seem counterintuitive and hard to get your head around.. “Isn’t stripping away everything going to make me feel more confused and lost?”.

For me, it did the opposite.

The idea is to start knowing and recognising yourself as something much deeper than all the conditionings and identities that life has given us. To understand ourselves beyond the anxieties and expectations of the world.

And when you do start to become aware of this deeper you, all those other aspects of who you are can be expressed into the world from a calmer, lighter more peaceful place. It can give you the sense of belonging you desire as you enquire into and understand who you truly are.

So instead of looking too deeply into what this means through the words here, I’d recommend just giving this practice a try and seeing how it helps you through feeling lost in life.

15 Minute Self-Enquiry Meditation | Offering

10 Minute Meditation When You Feel Lost in Life | YouTube

3. Read Books for Guidance on Feeling Lost in Life

There are tons of books out there written for people who need a little help navigating through life, and they’re mostly written by people who have been through similar situations or feelings themselves.

It’s common for people to feel lost in life, which is why there is an abundance of options for you to choose from that can help.

Books can inspire you with their wisdom, expand your mind with their knowledge and help transform your mindset and life by opening your eyes to what’s possible.

Maybe there’s a certain path you’re being drawn towards, and if so, there will be a book written by someone who has had the experience and wants to help.

They can offer guidance and perspectives you likely haven’t thought of yourself before, which could be the key to you making the changes you need in your life.

So read the books you feel called to and implement it’s knowledge into your life.

Here are some resources that really helped me with my journey of feeling lost and beginning to connect to myself more deeply:

1. The Alchemist | by Paulo Coelho
2. Vaster Than Sky, Greater Than Space | by Mooji
3. The Path of Awakening Course | by Anuttara Ashram & School
4. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself | by Michael A. Singer

4. Focus on or Discover What You’re Good At

When you’re feeling lost in life, it’s common to look at yourself and life through more of a negative lens; that’s why it can be great to remember and focus on the things you’re good at and spending some time putting your energy into these.

If you’re feeling far away from knowing what you’re good at or what you like, then you can either skip this step or put some energy into discovering what this is.

Try a few things you’ve always wanted to or read some books or blog posts that can help you figure out what your strengths are.

When you do find something you enjoy and you’re good at, working towards being great at it will fill your days and heart with passion and purpose.

Ikigai: The Japanese secret to a long and happy life by Héctor García and Francesc Miralles is a wonderful resource for discovering this.

5. Practice Yoga Nidra

Yoga Nidra is one of the most profound practices I’ve ever experienced that has the potential to take you deep into the depths of who you truly are.

You’re basically laying in shavasana whilst being guided to put the different layers of your being to sleep until you reach your most subtle aspect.

This process of putting to sleep the different layers of what you believe makes you who you are (our body, emotions, thoughts, beliefs) leaves us with the stillest, most truest part of our being, and when we connect with this part of ourselves, it feels like home.

The more we connect with this space, the more it seeps out into our external existence, so living in the world around us can also start to feel like home as we begin to feel less lost by living more through our heart instead of our head.

I recommend trying out this beautiful practice and seeing what your experience with it is and notice how it helps you in feeling lost.

30 Minute Yoga Nidra | Offering

15 Minute Yoga Nidra | YouTube

6. Reflect

It can be really beneficial to spend some time with yourself on a deeper level by asking yourself questions that help you figure out what it is that’s making you feel lost.

Journalling this down in a notebook is also a great way to work with and understand this (more on that in the next point).

Another form of reflection is simply sitting with and feeling into your emotions and desires to recognise why you are feeling this way and what you want in life.

I’d suggest trying to refrain from entering into this with too much of your mind and instead let your heart guide these questions and answers. Trying to feel or write down the answers with the intention of not thinking too much can be a wonderful practice.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself as an initial guide or starting point…

1. When did you start to feel lost?
2. Was there something that triggered these feelings?
3. What do you feel would remove these feelings?

7. Journal

Journalling your feelings, thoughts or whatever comes up for you is a beautiful practice to help you understand your self and situation better

When journalling, look for patterns and different intensities in behaviours, emotions and feelings so you can start to see your feelings of being lost from different perspectives.

It’s a great way to get the likely overwhelming thoughts out of your head onto paper, and remember, no one is judging you – so try not to judge yourself too.

8. Integrate Healthy Habits

Introducing healthy habits and routines into your life can be super beneficial when it comes to feeling less lost in life.

Bringing a bit of structure to your days and life can help you feel more grounded and create a sprinkle of purpose.

Having daily habits like a morning routine, yogic and meditative practices, eating well, exercising, limiting scrolling time and getting sufficient sleep are all factors that can help make you feel more present and in control.

Remember to not be too hard on yourself if you struggle to implement them all or you find some of them tricky, just give yourself the patience and awareness to know that if you keep at it, these habits will start to stick.

9. Practice Some Yoga & Meditation

Feeling lost in life can feel quite anxiety inducing and overwhelming, which often results in us overthinking and going down a rabbit hole of why you’re feeling lost.

Although this can sometimes be helpful to think about and ask yourself important reflective questions, it can also spiral out of control and create unhelpful anxiety.

Practicing both yoga and meditation can hugely calm the mind to stop overthinking by bringing you towards being present.

10. See it as an Opportunity

Although this moment in time might feel like a crappy black hole, it’s also a huge opportunity for lots of reasons.

Firstly, it’s a chance for you to grow and reinvent yourself, because when you do eventually move past this feeling of stuckness, there’s a brand new you waiting.

You can start looking into areas of your life you’re not happy with so that you can begin thinking about what changes you want to and will make. It’s your chance to shed any unwanted parts of you or your life, so viewing this as a time for emotional, personal, spiritual or professional growth can be extremely liberating in itself.

You can go on a journey of reconnecting with yourself by going deeper into what you actually want rather than what others want from you or what you feel life and society expects.

And lastly, it’s also a beautiful time to inspire curiosity that can spark new interests, dreams and goals.

11. Have a Burning Desire to Truly Know Your Self

When you have a strong desire for anything in life, you go for it and you’re more likely to make it happen.

Knowing your true self can give you a sense of grounding that actually lifts you up, and so desiring to know and connect to this can help you massively when it comes to feeling lost in life.

If you’re deeply wanting to know who you are in terms of career or other forms of external identity, you need to have a strong desire to know and dive deep into this journey of commitment so that you’ll do the work that’s required.

The desire that’s helped me the most when feeling lost has been the one that longs to know who I am at my core… Who or what my essence is, behind all the labels, expectations and personality traits. And it’s been this deep curiosity and desire that has led me to some of the most profound practices, beings and realisations that I never imagined possible.

So build and feed the flame of burning desire to know your true self, and you’ll soon begin to see and feel everything falling into place.

12. Take Action to Stop Feeling Lost in Life

I’d love to say that just reading this blog post is going to change how you’re feeling, but unfortunately it’s not going to solely solve it for you.

The next step is to actually take these points and give them a try.

It’s been such an up and down journey of feeling lost for myself, and I can’t tell you how much it helped to even just do 2 or 3 of these and committing to them.

Even if you just choose one of the practices and stick with that, then add in some journalling and mindset shifts – really commit yourself to try and stick to them and take note of how they make you feel.

You don’t want to overwhelm yourself too much by taking them all on, so start simple and choose which you feel drawn or resistant to and give them a go – then you can always add more if you’d like.

Then who knows, in a couple of months time you might be loving them all!

13. Remember You’re Not Alone

Firstly, you’re not alone in the sense that there are so many others out there going through what you are – even if it doesn’t look that way on the surface.

And secondly, you’re not alone in the sense that you can always speak to someone – whether that’s friends, family or a professional.

Always know that you can reach out to your loved ones or someone you know who has gone through something similar before and just let them know how you’re feeling so you can mutually figure out how they can best support you.

If that’s not possible for whatever reason, it could be really useful to speak to a mental healthcare provider who can provide support .

And you can always reach out to me if you’d like to say hey and/or go deeper into this process or any of the above steps.

In a Nutshell

Just remember it’s okay and very common to be feeling this way. You will see yourself come out the other end at some point, and you know what, you might end up feeling lost again at another point in life – and that’s also fine.

We don’t have to have it all figured out or even figure it out all in one go.

Looking into your self more deeply and getting to know who you truly are will help you feel more content and find more peace where you are.

So give some of the suggestions in this post a really good try and let your awareness guide you further towards what helps you feel less lost in life.